”Failure Is An Opportunity To Learn And Grow.”

 

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”Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently.”

I am not sure who said the original quote “failure is not a person, it’s an event”. Sometimes, if we are honest, we can find fault in our plan, in our strategy, or maybe our commitment. Other times, we may have given absolutely everything, left it all on the field so-to-speak, and yet we still somehow managed to come up short. Either way, failure usually results in us asking one or both of these questions:

What is wrong with me?

What have I done to deserve this?

Have you ever asked yourself either one of those questions? I know I have, Of course, you have and you are not alone (if you answered No, we need to check you for alien DNA).

 

Being introspective is just part of being human. We are hardwired to question. When we fail, it is natural to wonder why. The problem arises not in asking why we failed; it’s in letting the reason for the failure define who we are or letting it create a fear that keeps us from trying again.

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It’s not about avoiding failure. It’s about taking healthy ways to view, dissect, and learn from failure. Failure, just like every other obstacle in life, is another opportunity for you to grow. The greatest blessings in my life come from the treasure that God used in my trash or, in other words, the greatest blessings came from my greatest mistakes.

''Life Is A Beautiful Struggle''

”Human progress is neither automatic nor inevitable… Every step toward the goal of justice requires sacrifice, suffering, and struggle; the tireless exertions and passionate concern of dedicated individuals.”

Martin Luther King, Jr.

If you think you’re wandering alone trying to raise your voice so everybody can hear you roaring, you’re damn wrong. In fact, you are surrounded by people who fight bloody combats in their minds between success and failure.

Whoever told you that life and success come easily is either pleasing you, or talk nonsense. Life is a balance of good and bad times along with picking out the best lessons out of both experiences. The theory of yin-yang shows life as one simple equation.

However, our main goal is to see ourselves happy being worth in a community. Unconsciously we want to be appreciated for what we do. It’s best to find your talent and spread it around the world. However easy it may sound, the previous sentence determines a lifespan of your whole life!

In the next top 10 signs that you’re succeeding in life, you will surely find at least couple of emotions with whom you fight the harsh battle.

”The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of those depths.”

Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

why-is-life-such-a-constant-struggle1. You are determined more than ever.

The determination is the first thing you do consciously that will take you directly to your wishes. The determination means that you already have a clear goal and willing to sacrifice everything to grab that goal with both hands.

Emotions will rush through you to go back to the old habits. They will try to tuck in every negative thought to cut you off from your vision. Determination will determine (as the word says itself) that you will firmly stick to your future plan no matter the cost of the bill you have to pay.

If you ever feel this way, you are doing it right. Don’t flow away to your doubts for short-term satisfaction. GO FOR THE LONG RUN.

”Where there is no struggle, there is no strength.”

Oprah Winfrey

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2. You feel like breaking down.

At the exact moment when you feel like the world falls down on you is the moment you have to decide two things: go down with it or elevate stronger than ever.

If you read books about self-determination, watch seminars and listen to audiobooks you will notice that all the knowledge is used to encourage us through harsh times – the ones where the world falls down on us. They remind us to see the beauty behind the thorns on the way.

Life is one big test where we have to see through all perspectives. The price we have to pay not to blur our dreams when encountering the weight of the world on our shoulders.

Know that giving up is going to take everything you wanted away (depending on your struggle.) So combine your energy and explode it out to raise yourself.

”Nothing is given to a man on earth – struggle is built into the nature of life, and conflict is possible – the hero is the man who lets no obstacle prevent him from pursuing the values he has chosen.

Andrew Bernstein
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3. You firmly want to give up.

Following the sign of the hard struggle when you feel like breaking down, the mental state to give up will invade your mind. That’s really a sign that you are doing the right thing. I would state it as finding comfort in the discomfort.

Have in mind that you are encountering thousands of negative energies, angry drivers, wireless signals, toxic air, and what so not.

Rely on the side that you’ve been brave enough to get to this exact point after all the problems and circumstances, so don’t give up when you’re one step ahead of seeing the sun!

”The philosophy of life is this: Life is not a struggle, not a tension… Life is bliss. It is eternal wisdom, eternal existence.”

Maharishi Mahesh Yogi

4. You choose to avoid night-out overwork.

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Everyone needs to hang out from time to time. We exchange thoughts, enjoy the time with our buddies, and have a fun time. But sometimes night-out needs to be avoided if we have crucial work to finish that might take us closer to the vision. And don’t get me wrong. I am no workaholic too.

We need to see from the perspective that we earn night-outs without having a hesitation in unfinished business at home (or work.) When we have all things done for that particular time, we can enjoy as much as we can, but not before that.

Free time needs to be earned through previous successful days of work. Believe me; the best memories are made when you have nothing left behind to occupy your mind.

”Our duty is to encourage every one in his struggle to live up to his own highest idea, and strive at the same time to make the ideal as near as possible to the Truth.”

Swami Vivekananda

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5. You are less with wrong people.

First, I am no introvert, but quite the opposite. When I was having a tough, lonely period in my life I acknowledged the brightest lessons.

In those times you reveal your true friends and people who care about you the most.

While being lonely may seem like a dark period and something might be wrong with us, that period of our life is the enlightening. You are left alone with your experience to form your future.

Also, do not avoid people to reveal yourself, but when it comes to your future plans, take criticism seriously, but not personally. That’s what most people do. They criticize ideas and visions. You mustn’t let that touch yours.

”Ours is one continued struggle against degradation sought to be inflicted upon us by the European, who desire to degrade us to the level of the raw Kaffir, whose occupation is hunting and whose sole ambition is to collect a certain number of cattle to buy a wife with, and then pass his life in indolence and nakedness.”

Mahatma Gandhi

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6. You are occupied with your success.

I think when being asked for occupation, we should answer with “success.” Emotions play with our mind when we determine to succeed in life. As I previously mentioned, we all have bad habits that have to be removed. That’s not easy at all.

Success should make us happy. It shouldn’t mean that “success” is endless money and one-mile houses. It means finishing consecutive small tasks every day. The big picture will come at the right time. Like a painter crafts his masterpiece. Piece by piece, Leonardo da Vinci made Mona Lisa.

If you are occupied with executing small tasks every day, you are walking the right, unique, authentic way of yours.

”Change does not roll in on the wheels of inevitability but comes through continuous struggle. And so we must straighten our backs and work for our freedom. A man can’t ride you unless your back is bent.

Martin Luther King, Jr.”

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7. You exchange life for something only you see.

First off, you sacrifice life with everything you do daily. You literally give up (something important and most valued) for the sake of your considerations. You exchange life for the picture in your head of rightfulness.

You see, when we imagine things EVERY DAY, we attract things we imagine. So when it comes to sacrificing we better do it for our perfect picture in our heads.

And no, you are giving up life for nothing. You switch every second and hand out struggle to your vision. The most interesting, frightening and motivational part is that you don’t know whether you will make it. But as we know, it’s all about perspective.

”The power of a person derives not from the office he occupies but from a clear sense of direction and aspiration and from a willingness to struggle for his ways and beliefs.”

Ariel Sharon

travel-quote-dare-to-live-your-life-482x7208. You know your goal as soon as you wake up.

Waking up may be the hardest part of the day for some people, but not for those who have the clear concise vision (of at least) how they should spend their day to be closer to a better tomorrow.

Every one of us can easily create a positive and creative way of thinking in a short period of time. If that time is in the morning, there’s a probability that the whole day will be spending positively.

Since the body falls asleep, “the machine” stops and rests until the morning. After that, the machine needs to be fed with an instant motivation to drive us around daily problems and obstacles on the road.

Imagine life differently. Find more comparisons, maybe funnier ones. You mustn’t look things as real as they are. The mind can expand as long as you’re willing to. Feed your mind with beauty in the morning.

”All of us, in a sense, struggle continuously all the time, because we never get what we want. The important thing which I’ve really learned is how do you not give up because you never succeed in the first attempt.”

Mukesh Ambani

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9. You are struggling with every success.

When you walk the hard road, know that millions of people went through it. They even walked uglier roads to grasp success.

As billions of people passed the car tests and driving lessons, success means life is putting you to a test to see if you’re hard enough to endure it.

My thoughts were that you are not alone. If you were in somebody else’s shoes, you will see that your road is “piece of cake” according to theirs.

Know that people struggle through life to get things worth having.

“Nothing worth having comes easy.”

Life has to mean only in the struggle. Triumph or defeat is in the hands of the Gods. So let us celebrate the struggle!

Stevie Wonder

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10. You are not alone.

Whoever reads this, you are not alone. You interact with the world. You attract the things you imagine. You are feeling exactly as you are now because of circumstances you made or attracted. Sometimes (even though very rarely) we are a victim of circumstance, but you have everything you need to change that.

It’s never too late to change your community, your life, your world. If you think you’re on the right foot, the world will get in accordance with it. If you want to change it’s never too late, either at an 8 or 98.

If you still think you’re not succeeding in life, one of the wealthiest people on earth succeeded when they taught they are lost in life.

”Life Is A Beautiful Struggle”

”Human progress is neither automatic nor inevitable… Every step toward the goal of justice requires sacrifice, suffering, and struggle; the tireless exertions and passionate concern of dedicated individuals.”

Martin Luther King, Jr.

If you think you’re wandering alone trying to raise your voice so everybody can hear you roaring, you’re damn wrong. In fact, you are surrounded by people who fight bloody combats in their minds between success and failure.

Whoever told you that life and success come easily is either pleasing you, or talk nonsense. Life is a balance of good and bad times along with picking out the best lessons out of both experiences. The theory of yin-yang shows life as one simple equation.

However, our main goal is to see ourselves happy being worth in a community. Unconsciously we want to be appreciated for what we do. It’s best to find your talent and spread it around the world. However easy it may sound, the previous sentence determines a lifespan of your whole life!

In the next top 10 signs that you’re succeeding in life, you will surely find at least couple of emotions with whom you fight the harsh battle.

”The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of those depths.”

Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

why-is-life-such-a-constant-struggle1. You are determined more than ever.

The determination is the first thing you do consciously that will take you directly to your wishes. The determination means that you already have a clear goal and willing to sacrifice everything to grab that goal with both hands.

Emotions will rush through you to go back to the old habits. They will try to tuck in every negative thought to cut you off from your vision. Determination will determine (as the word says itself) that you will firmly stick to your future plan no matter the cost of the bill you have to pay.

If you ever feel this way, you are doing it right. Don’t flow away to your doubts for short-term satisfaction. GO FOR THE LONG RUN.

”Where there is no struggle, there is no strength.”

Oprah Winfrey

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2. You feel like breaking down.

At the exact moment when you feel like the world falls down on you is the moment you have to decide two things: go down with it or elevate stronger than ever.

If you read books about self-determination, watch seminars and listen to audiobooks you will notice that all the knowledge is used to encourage us through harsh times – the ones where the world falls down on us. They remind us to see the beauty behind the thorns on the way.

Life is one big test where we have to see through all perspectives. The price we have to pay not to blur our dreams when encountering the weight of the world on our shoulders.

Know that giving up is going to take everything you wanted away (depending on your struggle.) So combine your energy and explode it out to raise yourself.

”Nothing is given to a man on earth – struggle is built into the nature of life, and conflict is possible – the hero is the man who lets no obstacle prevent him from pursuing the values he has chosen.

Andrew Bernstein
n-DEPRESSION-SHADOW-628x314

3. You firmly want to give up.

Following the sign of the hard struggle when you feel like breaking down, the mental state to give up will invade your mind. That’s really a sign that you are doing the right thing. I would state it as finding comfort in the discomfort.

Have in mind that you are encountering thousands of negative energies, angry drivers, wireless signals, toxic air, and what so not.

Rely on the side that you’ve been brave enough to get to this exact point after all the problems and circumstances, so don’t give up when you’re one step ahead of seeing the sun!

”The philosophy of life is this: Life is not a struggle, not a tension… Life is bliss. It is eternal wisdom, eternal existence.”

Maharishi Mahesh Yogi

4. You choose to avoid night-out overwork.

pexels-photo-2050001

Everyone needs to hang out from time to time. We exchange thoughts, enjoy the time with our buddies, and have a fun time. But sometimes night-out needs to be avoided if we have crucial work to finish that might take us closer to the vision. And don’t get me wrong. I am no workaholic too.

We need to see from the perspective that we earn night-outs without having a hesitation in unfinished business at home (or work.) When we have all things done for that particular time, we can enjoy as much as we can, but not before that.

Free time needs to be earned through previous successful days of work. Believe me; the best memories are made when you have nothing left behind to occupy your mind.

”Our duty is to encourage every one in his struggle to live up to his own highest idea, and strive at the same time to make the ideal as near as possible to the Truth.”

Swami Vivekananda

life

5. You are less with wrong people.

First, I am no introvert, but quite the opposite. When I was having a tough, lonely period in my life I acknowledged the brightest lessons.

In those times you reveal your true friends and people who care about you the most.

While being lonely may seem like a dark period and something might be wrong with us, that period of our life is the enlightening. You are left alone with your experience to form your future.

Also, do not avoid people to reveal yourself, but when it comes to your future plans, take criticism seriously, but not personally. That’s what most people do. They criticize ideas and visions. You mustn’t let that touch yours.

”Ours is one continued struggle against degradation sought to be inflicted upon us by the European, who desire to degrade us to the level of the raw Kaffir, whose occupation is hunting and whose sole ambition is to collect a certain number of cattle to buy a wife with, and then pass his life in indolence and nakedness.”

Mahatma Gandhi

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6. You are occupied with your success.

I think when being asked for occupation, we should answer with “success.” Emotions play with our mind when we determine to succeed in life. As I previously mentioned, we all have bad habits that have to be removed. That’s not easy at all.

Success should make us happy. It shouldn’t mean that “success” is endless money and one-mile houses. It means finishing consecutive small tasks every day. The big picture will come at the right time. Like a painter crafts his masterpiece. Piece by piece, Leonardo da Vinci made Mona Lisa.

If you are occupied with executing small tasks every day, you are walking the right, unique, authentic way of yours.

”Change does not roll in on the wheels of inevitability but comes through continuous struggle. And so we must straighten our backs and work for our freedom. A man can’t ride you unless your back is bent.

Martin Luther King, Jr.”

life_is_a_beautiful_struggle_by_jeremyarts-d7v2ptz

7. You exchange life for something only you see.

First off, you sacrifice life with everything you do daily. You literally give up (something important and most valued) for the sake of your considerations. You exchange life for the picture in your head of rightfulness.

You see, when we imagine things EVERY DAY, we attract things we imagine. So when it comes to sacrificing we better do it for our perfect picture in our heads.

And no, you are giving up life for nothing. You switch every second and hand out struggle to your vision. The most interesting, frightening and motivational part is that you don’t know whether you will make it. But as we know, it’s all about perspective.

”The power of a person derives not from the office he occupies but from a clear sense of direction and aspiration and from a willingness to struggle for his ways and beliefs.”

Ariel Sharon

travel-quote-dare-to-live-your-life-482x7208. You know your goal as soon as you wake up.

Waking up may be the hardest part of the day for some people, but not for those who have the clear concise vision (of at least) how they should spend their day to be closer to a better tomorrow.

Every one of us can easily create a positive and creative way of thinking in a short period of time. If that time is in the morning, there’s a probability that the whole day will be spending positively.

Since the body falls asleep, “the machine” stops and rests until the morning. After that, the machine needs to be fed with an instant motivation to drive us around daily problems and obstacles on the road.

Imagine life differently. Find more comparisons, maybe funnier ones. You mustn’t look things as real as they are. The mind can expand as long as you’re willing to. Feed your mind with beauty in the morning.

”All of us, in a sense, struggle continuously all the time, because we never get what we want. The important thing which I’ve really learned is how do you not give up because you never succeed in the first attempt.”

Mukesh Ambani

life-is-a-struggle

9. You are struggling with every success.

When you walk the hard road, know that millions of people went through it. They even walked uglier roads to grasp success.

As billions of people passed the car tests and driving lessons, success means life is putting you to a test to see if you’re hard enough to endure it.

My thoughts were that you are not alone. If you were in somebody else’s shoes, you will see that your road is “piece of cake” according to theirs.

Know that people struggle through life to get things worth having.

“Nothing worth having comes easy.”

Life has to mean only in the struggle. Triumph or defeat is in the hands of the Gods. So let us celebrate the struggle!

Stevie Wonder

f7981cc68b8534a775c9e706456d6171

10. You are not alone.

Whoever reads this, you are not alone. You interact with the world. You attract the things you imagine. You are feeling exactly as you are now because of circumstances you made or attracted. Sometimes (even though very rarely) we are a victim of circumstance, but you have everything you need to change that.

It’s never too late to change your community, your life, your world. If you think you’re on the right foot, the world will get in accordance with it. If you want to change it’s never too late, either at an 8 or 98.

If you still think you’re not succeeding in life, one of the wealthiest people on earth succeeded when they taught they are lost in life.

''A Better Step For A Better Life''

You cannot change the circumstances. But you can get stronger, wiser, better.

Life is about constant, predictable patterns of change, and the only constant factor will be our feelings and attitudes toward life. We as human beings have the power of attitude and that attitude determines the choice, and choice determines results. All that we are and all that we can become has indeed been left to us to decide and interpret through our attitude and choices.

Life is like the changing seasons—you cannot change the seasons, but you can change yourself. So the first major lesson in life to learn is how to handle the winters. They come regularly, right after autumn. Some are long, some are short, some are difficult, some are easy, but they always come right after autumn. That is never going to change.

There are all kinds of winters: the “winter” when you can’t figure it out, the “winter” when everything seems to go awry. There are economic winters, social winters, and personal winters.

Wintertime can bring disappointment, and disappointment is common to all of us. So you must learn how to handle the winters. You must learn how to handle difficulty; it always comes after opportunity. That is never going to change.

The big question is what to do about winters. You can’t get rid of January simply by tearing it off the calendar. But here is what you can do: You can get stronger; you can get wiser; you can get better. Remember that trio of words: stronger, wiser, better. The winters won’t change, but you can.

Before I understood this, I used to wish for summer when it was winter. When things were difficult, I wished they were easy. I didn’t know any better. Then my mentor gave me the answer from a part of his unique philosophy when he said, “Don’t wish it were easier, wish you were better. Don’t wish for fewer problems, wish for more skills. Don’t wish for less challenge, wish for more wisdom.”

”A Better Step For A Better Life”

You cannot change the circumstances. But you can get stronger, wiser, better.

Life is about constant, predictable patterns of change, and the only constant factor will be our feelings and attitudes toward life. We as human beings have the power of attitude and that attitude determines the choice, and choice determines results. All that we are and all that we can become has indeed been left to us to decide and interpret through our attitude and choices.

Life is like the changing seasons—you cannot change the seasons, but you can change yourself. So the first major lesson in life to learn is how to handle the winters. They come regularly, right after autumn. Some are long, some are short, some are difficult, some are easy, but they always come right after autumn. That is never going to change.

There are all kinds of winters: the “winter” when you can’t figure it out, the “winter” when everything seems to go awry. There are economic winters, social winters, and personal winters.

Wintertime can bring disappointment, and disappointment is common to all of us. So you must learn how to handle the winters. You must learn how to handle difficulty; it always comes after opportunity. That is never going to change.

The big question is what to do about winters. You can’t get rid of January simply by tearing it off the calendar. But here is what you can do: You can get stronger; you can get wiser; you can get better. Remember that trio of words: stronger, wiser, better. The winters won’t change, but you can.

Before I understood this, I used to wish for summer when it was winter. When things were difficult, I wished they were easy. I didn’t know any better. Then my mentor gave me the answer from a part of his unique philosophy when he said, “Don’t wish it were easier, wish you were better. Don’t wish for fewer problems, wish for more skills. Don’t wish for less challenge, wish for more wisdom.”

''DOWN-TO-EARTH PEOPLE''

I think the biggest misconception about me is people really don’t know who I really am. They see the party side of me, they see the crazy side of me. But I also have a laid-back side. You know, I’m chill, down to earth. If you want to grab a cup of coffee and just talk about life, I can do that.

We all think of ourselves as pretty authentic, striving to be the best possible versions of ourselves that we can. Each day we become stronger, wiser, more grounded, more loving and confident. It’s not easy being an authentic person and it takes courage to stand up for yourself and for your own wants and needs. To follow your inner voice and hearts desires can be an uphill battle. Let alone the societal and religious dogmas that have been thrust upon us. After working our way through we still, are faced with the challenge of finding out for ourselves what we truly would like to get out of this world while we’re here.

It’s a horrible idea that God, this paragon of wisdom and knowledge, power, couldn’t think of a better way to forgive us our sins than to come down to Earth in his alter ego as his son and have himself hideously tortured and executed so that he could forgive himself.

Authentic people, have mastered these traits and stay true to their hearts– no matter how far off the beaten trail it may lead.

*.They think before they speak

Authentic people are not run by their emotions and they know how to assess a situation before giving their input.

* They speak for what is right; not for what is popular

Standing up for what is right isn’t always easy to do, especially when faced by peers and elders who think differently. It takes confidence and courage to stand firm in the face of scrutiny.

*. They indulge in conversations with depth

Authentic people aren’t captivated by mainstream hype, the next it girl or guy or the latest buzz in the media. They yearn for deep and meaningful conversation. They want to explore your mind, your heart, and your soul.

* They don’t pay attention to gossip or drama

It is said that gossip stops upon meeting wise ears, and gossip always stops with an authentic person.

They don’t take kindly to those who choose to speak harshly of other behinds their backs and make a non-judgmental note of the “witch that warned them” Quite often you will find the words turned back around on you when attempting to spread gossip, to an authentic person.

* They are comfortable being alone

Authentic people are comfortable alone because they are in a position of love and acceptance of themselves, otherwise being alone would turn into being lonely and it never does.

* They value life as an experience rather than a collection of goods.

Authentic people value each and every moment and experience and understand that the best things in life can’t be bought or sold.

Life to them is about living, caring, loving and giving, not having, taking, asking and expecting.

*They appear as an introvert but are very outgoing

Authentic people highly regard time alone to recharge and rewire. They are often mistaken for a recluse, but when exposed to a social gathering they can be very outgoing and friendly. Too much time in social circles will become draining on them, and will likely be one of the first to ditch off early for a nice relaxing evening at home.

*They truly wish for the success of others

Authentic people do not secretly wish for others to fail or become jealous for the successes of those around them. They genuinely like to see people happy and healthy, living and loving their lives.

* They trust their gut and listen to their instincts

Authentic people know how to listen to themselves and can appreciate the moments where they didn’t as another opportunity to trust themselves more.

*They follow their heart

Authentic people follow their hearts no matter how far, how crazy and how much it may hurt.

They understand that their hearts are their very best teacher and respect its wise wishes.

* They stand out from the crowd

Authentic people do not search out for popularity, they stand out for their own uniqueness. No asking, no expecting it just happens. When you live true to yourself, you become eccentric, eclectic and exuberant it just happens!

* They love themselves first

Authentic people know that there is no way to be a beacon of light or an inspiration to others unless they can lead by example. In order to love others and accept each other no matter, what we must first love and accept ourselves. It is the only way.

* They do things their own way

Authentic people don’t care how it is supposed to be done, the joy of living is learning, and learning in our own unique ways.

* They see the value in life

All life has value, none more than another, from the tiniest insect to the largest mammal, we are here on this earth together and all life has to mean.

* They see whats under the surface

Authentic people don’t focus on whats on the surface, and they prefer to see whats hidden underneath. They quite often don’t take words at face value, and they can hear the emotions behind the words being spoken. This is what they listen to.

* They don’t take it personally

Authentic people know that when someone is rude, critical or downright hurtful that it has more to do with the other person than it does about them. Authentic people always empathize with others and show a sense of understanding, no matter the words spoken.

*They are decisive, cool and collected

Authentic people always have a plan, a goal, and an aspiration even if its to just go with the flow.

* They make their own path

Authentic people want to do what has never been done, see what has never been seen and reach where no one would have ever thought possible. Sometimes, they secretly enjoy proving to you that it CAN be done.

*They are never fake

An authentic person will never tell you what you want to hear, just because you want to hear it. They will empathize with you and give you the ugly truth when you are ready for it.

*They are always grateful

They know that the key to abundance is being in a state of acceptance. The more than anyone expects things, the less can be accepted.

*They see the world from a higher perspective

When you live true to yourself, with love, hope, strength, courage, and commitment you can’t help but view the world from a more perceptive view. You have built your mountain strong and firm and you can’t wait to help everyone else rise to the top.

The stars of eternal truth and right have always shone in the firmament of human understanding. The process of bringing them down to earth, remolding them into practical forms, imbuing them with vitality, and then making use of them, has been a long one.

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”DOWN-TO-EARTH PEOPLE”

I think the biggest misconception about me is people really don’t know who I really am. They see the party side of me, they see the crazy side of me. But I also have a laid-back side. You know, I’m chill, down to earth. If you want to grab a cup of coffee and just talk about life, I can do that.

We all think of ourselves as pretty authentic, striving to be the best possible versions of ourselves that we can. Each day we become stronger, wiser, more grounded, more loving and confident. It’s not easy being an authentic person and it takes courage to stand up for yourself and for your own wants and needs. To follow your inner voice and hearts desires can be an uphill battle. Let alone the societal and religious dogmas that have been thrust upon us. After working our way through we still, are faced with the challenge of finding out for ourselves what we truly would like to get out of this world while we’re here.

It’s a horrible idea that God, this paragon of wisdom and knowledge, power, couldn’t think of a better way to forgive us our sins than to come down to Earth in his alter ego as his son and have himself hideously tortured and executed so that he could forgive himself.

Authentic people, have mastered these traits and stay true to their hearts– no matter how far off the beaten trail it may lead.

*.They think before they speak

Authentic people are not run by their emotions and they know how to assess a situation before giving their input.

* They speak for what is right; not for what is popular

Standing up for what is right isn’t always easy to do, especially when faced by peers and elders who think differently. It takes confidence and courage to stand firm in the face of scrutiny.

*. They indulge in conversations with depth

Authentic people aren’t captivated by mainstream hype, the next it girl or guy or the latest buzz in the media. They yearn for deep and meaningful conversation. They want to explore your mind, your heart, and your soul.

* They don’t pay attention to gossip or drama

It is said that gossip stops upon meeting wise ears, and gossip always stops with an authentic person.

They don’t take kindly to those who choose to speak harshly of other behinds their backs and make a non-judgmental note of the “witch that warned them” Quite often you will find the words turned back around on you when attempting to spread gossip, to an authentic person.

* They are comfortable being alone

Authentic people are comfortable alone because they are in a position of love and acceptance of themselves, otherwise being alone would turn into being lonely and it never does.

* They value life as an experience rather than a collection of goods.

Authentic people value each and every moment and experience and understand that the best things in life can’t be bought or sold.

Life to them is about living, caring, loving and giving, not having, taking, asking and expecting.

*They appear as an introvert but are very outgoing

Authentic people highly regard time alone to recharge and rewire. They are often mistaken for a recluse, but when exposed to a social gathering they can be very outgoing and friendly. Too much time in social circles will become draining on them, and will likely be one of the first to ditch off early for a nice relaxing evening at home.

*They truly wish for the success of others

Authentic people do not secretly wish for others to fail or become jealous for the successes of those around them. They genuinely like to see people happy and healthy, living and loving their lives.

* They trust their gut and listen to their instincts

Authentic people know how to listen to themselves and can appreciate the moments where they didn’t as another opportunity to trust themselves more.

*They follow their heart

Authentic people follow their hearts no matter how far, how crazy and how much it may hurt.

They understand that their hearts are their very best teacher and respect its wise wishes.

* They stand out from the crowd

Authentic people do not search out for popularity, they stand out for their own uniqueness. No asking, no expecting it just happens. When you live true to yourself, you become eccentric, eclectic and exuberant it just happens!

* They love themselves first

Authentic people know that there is no way to be a beacon of light or an inspiration to others unless they can lead by example. In order to love others and accept each other no matter, what we must first love and accept ourselves. It is the only way.

* They do things their own way

Authentic people don’t care how it is supposed to be done, the joy of living is learning, and learning in our own unique ways.

* They see the value in life

All life has value, none more than another, from the tiniest insect to the largest mammal, we are here on this earth together and all life has to mean.

* They see whats under the surface

Authentic people don’t focus on whats on the surface, and they prefer to see whats hidden underneath. They quite often don’t take words at face value, and they can hear the emotions behind the words being spoken. This is what they listen to.

* They don’t take it personally

Authentic people know that when someone is rude, critical or downright hurtful that it has more to do with the other person than it does about them. Authentic people always empathize with others and show a sense of understanding, no matter the words spoken.

*They are decisive, cool and collected

Authentic people always have a plan, a goal, and an aspiration even if its to just go with the flow.

* They make their own path

Authentic people want to do what has never been done, see what has never been seen and reach where no one would have ever thought possible. Sometimes, they secretly enjoy proving to you that it CAN be done.

*They are never fake

An authentic person will never tell you what you want to hear, just because you want to hear it. They will empathize with you and give you the ugly truth when you are ready for it.

*They are always grateful

They know that the key to abundance is being in a state of acceptance. The more than anyone expects things, the less can be accepted.

*They see the world from a higher perspective

When you live true to yourself, with love, hope, strength, courage, and commitment you can’t help but view the world from a more perceptive view. You have built your mountain strong and firm and you can’t wait to help everyone else rise to the top.

The stars of eternal truth and right have always shone in the firmament of human understanding. The process of bringing them down to earth, remolding them into practical forms, imbuing them with vitality, and then making use of them, has been a long one.

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“When Life Gives You Lemons… Make Lemonade!!”

“When life gives you lemons… make lemonade!!”

When life gives you lemons, make lemonade” is a proverbial phrase used to encourage optimism and a positive can-do attitude in the face of adversity or misfortune. Lemons suggest sourness or difficulty in life, while lemonade is a sweet drink.

Ew.

What if it’s a really nasty, sour, and disgusting lemon? What if it’s — GASP! — not organic?

What if the lemon was not “given” to you, but pelted at you at full speed, with no warning?

What if you don’t even like lemonade?

What if you do like lemonade, but you’re just really tired and YOU DON’T WANT ANY FREAKING LEMONADE RIGHT NOW, THANK YOU VERY MUCH!?!

I get the sentiment and all … lemons are sour and overwhelming if we just bite into them, but if we slice them open, massage and juice them, and then add a little glucose and hydration, we can make a bitter experience into a sweet one.

I’m all for seeing the good, and I also think both water and sugar can solve many problems… but you know what??

YOU DON’T HAVE TO MAKE THE FREAKING LEMONADE!

You don’t have to turn something bad into something good.

When the bad happens, the last thing we may want to do is make lemonade.

It’s true that profound transformations often emerge from deep suffering … but it’s also true that profound transformations take a long time.

And I guess that’s why I’m picking on this aphorism today: “When life gives you lemons, make lemonade!” is too easy. It means there’s ALWAYS a silver lining, and there’s an immediate, patently obvious thing to do with what has been given to you.

But life is not simple and obvious.

Sometimes it’s just bad, and complicated, and murky, and we have NO idea what to do.

At that point, we just need to sit with the bad.

One of my favorite “mommy mantras” is “Sit with the suck.”

Some parts of parenting (and work and life, etc.) just suck.

When we think we have to make lemonade and sweetness out of the suck, we just end up feeling more miserable.

What if we just sit with the suck?

And sometimes things don’t just suck — they’re plain shitty and painful and miserable. No amount of squeezing and straining them into a different form is going to help.

So we sit.

But sitting with the suck is not the same as wallowing in the suck.

Sitting with the suck means life gives you lemons, and you just decide you’re going to BE WITH the lemons.

You’re not going to yell at them or kick them or throw them at someone.

Or, actually, you might yell at them and get really mad at ALL THE LEMONS.

But the anger or frustration or sadness or righteous indignation or despair you feel about the lemons won’t be constant. It will ebb and flow and change. You’ll know this because you’re sitting with the lemons.

It might take just a few minutes of sitting with the lemons.

It might take a few months (lemons have a REALLY LONG shelf life).

But it’s not the lemon’s fault.

You’re just going to STAY with your hurt and your pain, because the only way out is through.

And then one day you might think, “I suppose I could try to make lemonade…”

Or perhaps you’ll think, “I do need just a little bit of lemon zest for this dinner recipe…”

Or you might just say, “This kitchen stinks — I’m just going to grind up the lemons in the garbage disposal…”

There are lots of uses for lemons.

You don’t have to make lemonade.

When it’s bad, you don’t have to be all heroic and turn the bad into something good.

I mean, you can if you want to. If you’re ready, and you know the recipe, go ahead and make it.

But if you need to feel the bad, then feel the bad. Reach out and talk to people about the bad. There are lots of us out there who are familiar with citric suffering.

And don’t forget the oft-forgotten option between good and bad, acid and base — neutral.

You can be neutral about lemons, too.

So, with all due apologies to the lemon, lemonade, and truism industries, I think we’ve maxed out this maxim.

The next time life gives you lemons, just tell yourself that as far as adages go, this one’s, well . . . , a lemon.

Do You Think That You Are Spiritual?

”Defining Spiritual”

Do you think that you are spiritual? What makes you think so? Have you ever considered what it really takes to be spiritual? Is it in being part of a religion, or not being part of a religion? Does one need to study spiritual disciplines or have some accreditation in spirituality to be spiritual? Is it in the books one reads, or events one attends, or rituals they practice? Does being a good person make you spiritual? And what does it mean to be good? Is spirituality found in how we talk, how we act, what we wear, or what jobs we hold? Does being spiritual mean you have to forgo material goods or financial wealth? Is spirituality inherited or is it learned? All of these are important questions to consider for yourself to explore your ideas and beliefs about spirituality because what limits our growth and fullest life expression is not how spiritual we may ever become but how restricted we are by our belief systems. The more rigid and narrow our thinking, the more we miss and dismiss the big picture of it all.

In truth, spirituality isn’t one fixed state, it is dynamic. It is also not easily defined. It is expressed in degrees, along with a spectrum that will vary and change throughout our lives. Sure, spirituality can include all, some or none of the things mentioned above. They are all more like the decorations on a holiday tree. What we want to get at, to best understand spirituality and what it truly means to be spiritual, is the core. In the case of our analogy, the tree itself. The core of your being is where we will find the best representation of your spirituality. Let’s explore this further.

Notice that the word spiritual has the word spirit in it. Right from the start, this should imply some good understanding of and connection with our spirit, and Spirit in the bigger sense. How well do you know yourself to be more than your body or mind? In truth, we are neither of these things and the more we grasp and feel and know this, the more we tap into the core of spirituality. There is more to you and more to life than meets the eye, and it is in that internal knowing that we access the deepest states of spirituality and parts of our spiritual nature.

Other than that, the core of Spirit, as we’ve been guided to see, feel and understand through the ages is love. Now of course how we each understand and define love will vary subjectively, just like any other term or concept. At the highest level though, we can say that love is being connected. It is all-encompassing, non-discriminating and unconditional. Love respects, nurtures, honors and does not impose or impede upon the will of another. Love is also internal, it starts with us and how we treat ourselves. This then spills out and over to all other things and beings, expressions and experiences. Most importantly, love is a state of being, not a state of doing. We can say and do all sorts of things to appear loving to ourselves or others, but if it is not coming from a state of love at the being level, it is just an imitation of love.

That is it, two simple, yet deeply profound parts that make up the core of spirituality. And to me, this is what it is most about; the more connected one is and the more love one expresses universally, the more spirituality is embodied at its core. There is no need to decorate this, it is pure and whole all on its own. And it is unmistakable and evident in those who truly experience it.

How do we reach or develop through that spiritual core of our being? Well, this is where those books, or events, or lifestyle changes can help. They won’t necessarily make you spiritual, but they can point the way to develop the core of your being and strengthen your connection to Spirit and expressions of love. Ultimately, spirituality is always there, within us. We don’t need to do something to get it, we just need to get out of our own way with all of our beliefs and preconceptions to experience it, and allow this natural state of our Divine being to come through.

Externally, spirituality can easily be faked and imitated, and whether consciously or unconsciously, we can fool ourselves and others into thinking all sorts of things about our spirituality. On an internal level, however, spirituality cannot be faked. Either we feel connected or we don’t. Either we are feeling and/or expressing love towards ourselves, others, all living beings and our Earth, or we aren’t. There is no space for excuses here or any kind of justification. This is why, one of the most beautiful and integral parts of being spiritual is having spiritual integrity, which we will discuss in more detail later on in this article.

Where Does God Fit In?

Of course, a major consideration when discussing the realm of spirituality is God. I’ve often been asked about the importance or significance of this connection, and whether one has to believe in God in order to be spiritual, Can We Be Spiritual Without a Belief in God? and the quick answer is ‘yes’.

Just like with the term spiritual, the first thing to consider is what we believe or understand God to be. I think it is clear to most of us these days that we do not all perceive God or agree on who or what “God” is in the same way. As our consciousness expands and our understanding broadens, so does our concept of God. From a stern, male figure in the clouds, we’ve seen the evolution of God itself to a more loving and gender-neutral entity over time. Said in another way, God evolves as we evolve. The more connected we become and the more we are able to conceive higher realms of existence, the more sophisticated our model of God becomes. It is naive after all, to think that we can grasp ‘God’ with our limited and narrowly tuned consciousness of this reality. While you are a whole and complete being, I think it is safe to say that none of us are “the Whole” of it all. And so how can apart properly and fully understand the Whole? It can grasp some aspect of the Whole, but unless and until it fully becomes or merges with the Whole it can only depict parts of the Whole and assign its own characteristics to it. This is all too evident throughout our society. The more whole you know yourself to be, the more fully you can grasp the wholeness of God.

Given our varying definitions of terms like spiritual and love, applied to our varying definitions of God, I trust you can see by now that it is no easy feat to classify everyone in the same way. This is just another reason why there are many spiritual people who do not consider themselves spiritual, yet are, and there are many people who consider themselves spiritual or who we may label as spiritual, who do not actually embody the core of spirituality. We can conclude the same here about God. What God means varies drastically amongst people, and believing in God and being spiritual can be two very exclusive things.

Where Do Rituals Fit In?

Another important area for consideration under the umbrella of spirituality, which creates a lot of confusion and misrepresentation, is that of rituals. With the expansion of and popularity of all things spiritual, many rituals have arisen on top of the many already existing ones. Since we’ve become a highly materialistic and productivity-focused society, it is no coincidence that today many people are more attracted to doing spiritual things and having spiritual things, than actually being spiritual.

Recall that spirituality is all about being connected to Spirit and expressing the highest state of love. It is not found in cards or crystals, mantras or affirmations, or any kind of worship. If you rely on or use any “spiritual rituals” I invite you to examine your rituals, what you do and most importantly why you do it. Many rituals can be nice and helpful, but the intention behind their use is what matters most. For example, if you are doing anything out of fear, then you’ve blocked your connection to Source and love. For example, some people use specific rituals to “protect” themselves from “negative energies”. This is an example of doing something out of fear. In truth, you have nothing to protect yourself from, nothing to fear and no “negative energies” can impact you if YOU are connected and vibrating at a high frequency of love. (Low-frequency energies can only attract and impact similar low-frequency energies.)

All too often, unfortunately, rituals are unconsciously used to prop up the spiritual identity of the Ego. By doing something spiritual, we then mistook ourselves for being spiritual, but the two are by no means equivalent. So if there is some act or tool that you would like to use or engage with, it can be just fine as long as you are doing it for the love of doing, not because you think you have to or think you should. Keep the thinking of it, in fact, to avoid fueling your Ego’s spiritual identity. Follow the wisdom of your heart instead. This is perhaps the best and most important “ritual” if you’d like to call it that, that anyone can ever practice.

Ultimately, nothing spiritual needs to be done to be spiritual. A ritual can point the way, but it is not the way. Yes, some tools, props or rituals can be valuable, but they are not required. You don’t need to chant, or read angel cards, or sleep with crystals under your pillow. You can if you like and if that brings you joy, but you don’t have to. The intention is where it is all at. This is the power and potential of our Divine-human nature: we can create through intention.

Spiritual Integrity

One of the biggest areas therefore to understand true spirituality is to know that there is a big difference between “thinking it” and “bring it”. I can read all the spiritual books and attend all the spiritual programs, and even get myself a spiritual Guru to learn from, but this is no guarantee of me having spiritual integrity. Sure to onlookers, my efforts may appear very noble, but so do those of the people who walk into churches each Sunday week after week, year after year. Do you see the connection? On the surface, it all appears lovely, but beneath the surface, it lacks substance. With such an approach no wonder we can’t seem to get anywhere, personally and collectively on Earth. How many Sundays in church or hours of meditation will it take for us to stop acts of violence against other humans or animals? Many people I come across, for example, complain that they mediate and it doesn’t help much, or that they study the work of various spiritual teachers or texts and nothing really changes. And it won’t until you choose to change!

Spirituality is neither instant magic nor a laborious quest. It is, as with all things, what we choose to make of it. This includes what we allow ourselves to express and what we are ready to experience. Some people meditate for years and their life and sense of inner peace is no better than some of those who never try meditation. Others may have one profound experience in nature and have their lives completely transformed. There is no pattern, no formula, no guarantee. It all and always comes down to what you make of it.

We can hide behind spiritual talk, wear spiritual clothes, or attend spiritual programs, but more often than not, these just create a lovely new identity for the Ego to uphold, as shared in the ritual section above. True spirituality is lived and embodied, and ultimately needs none of those things. Why? Because we are the spirit at the core of our being. We are always connected. What we do, however, in this life experience is a block that connection with the many illusions and limits that we put upon ourselves or buy into. Then yes, it seems necessary to take “the spiritual journey” to unblock all that, but the truth is that liberation is a choice that takes a moment. You don’t need practices, rituals, or lifetimes. You only need this moment. What do you choose? Love, or not? Peace, or not? Do you choose heart-centered thoughts, words, and actions, or do you choose behavior that is out of alignment with the highest expressions of love and peace?

The Merriam-Webster dictionary defines integrity as “the quality of being honest and fair”, and “the state of being complete or whole”. While it is essential, to be honest with ourselves in any spiritual undertakings, I believe it is in that latter or second definition that we get the most benefit for understanding what spiritual integrity is all about. Think about it, if we are complete or whole we don’t compete for attention or affection with others, or compete for anything in fact. If we are complete and whole, we don’t need anything from the outside to make us feel complete and whole. If we are complete and whole, we recognize our incredible potential. If we are complete and whole, we don’t act from fear. I hope you see how profound these implications are when it comes to understanding what it really means to be spiritual, and how they can be applied to every area of your life; every thought, word and action you have or make. From your relationships to your work, from your food to your lifestyle choices, it all counts!

Does such spiritual integrity raise the bar too high? I don’t think so. I think it is time for us to stop playing small, stop deluding ourselves, and step up to the plate of our human and divine potential. There are a time and place for games, but this is not it. If we want to understand ourselves, our origin, our purpose, and our reality, we need to stop sabotaging ourselves. If you want an authentic life, if you want to transcend human drama and suffering, if you want to have a positive impact on others, if you want to know the highest potential of your being, then this is it: Embrace and embody spiritual integrity.

Conclusion

As I shared with you in the introduction, if we want depth, we must go below the surface. This is the crux of it all. Labelling ourselves or any other person as spiritual is no reflection of the truth, it is just a label, a surface perception. True spirituality is lived and embodied in how we act and respond to ourselves, others, nature, and all life. And we should never be concerned with how spiritual or not spiritual others are, but focus on us, ourselves. This is where the rubber meets the road because unless and until we attain some profound level of telepathic communication we will never really know what is in the mind and heart of any other. Besides, this is your journey, so focus on who YOU are.

And if you want the many beautiful and transformational benefits that come from true spirituality, you must be willing to dive beneath the surface. The deeper you go, the more perspective you gain, and the more connected you become. And the more you strengthen your connection, the more complete and whole you know yourself to be, and the more your life becomes a living testament to love, joy, and peace.

”Yoga And Spirituality”

The word yoga means to join or unite, and yogis view this unison in different ways – the unison of body, mind, and spirit, uniting all the aspects of yourself, or uniting with a higher power or spiritual force. You can believe in a God or gods, or nothing at all.

What does spirituality mean to you? Like yoga itself, spirituality is personal yet universal. Many people practice yoga as a means to a toned body and an hour of peace away from the office. But for others looking for their path through life, yoga goes deeper. For many people, spirituality is the answer to the question “what makes yoga special?”

The Spiritual Stretch=‘Wellness is a connection of paths: knowledge and action.”

“Lack of activity destroys the good condition of every human being, while movement and methodical physical exercise save it and preserve it.”

Yoga is physical, for sure. Regularly practicing yoga develops your stamina, your strength, and your rockstar abs. Postures challenge the body. However, yoga is also a mental practice where you work through emotional stress and psychological challenges – you may even meditate.

“Yoga is the fountain of youth. You’re only as young as your spine is flexible.” Bob Harper.

If you sign up for yoga classes because you want a thin body or the ability to master a handstand then you are skimming the surface of the practice. If you enjoy yoga for the health benefits then you will certainly feel better with regular sessions. But without the spiritual side, yoga is simply a stretch class, a gym session, or a space for relaxation. Go deeper, and you’ll find so much more.

Cultivating Awareness

When committing to yoga practice on a regular basis, yogis seek to experience and become aware of the spirit, or the energy, within and without. We’re not talking about ghostly spirits here, or some supernatural being – spirit is higher consciousness; a driving force, a motivation, a reason behind everything we think and everything we do. Being aware of this energy is something spiritual. Therefore, awareness is critical to yoga as a spiritual practice.

Think of the expression “the mat is your mirror.” When you turn up to the mat you bring yourself – only yourself and all of yourself. If you practice yoga with an awareness of yourself you come to learn about the different ways you act, how you react, and what you are like – in creating awareness of yourself you can transform your mind, which in turn affects how you live your life and how you interact with others.

Relinquishing Control

Watch out – awareness doesn’t always lead to the place you want to go. Yoga as a spiritual practice is not about changing your life so you can earn more money, be a “better” person, or score a job you love. Yoga is not about getting rid of the negative by controlling your mind and your environment.

Rather, practicing yoga reminds you there is no “sweet spot” – there will always be a barking dog, a car that runs out of gas, a bad-tempered boss or an inattentive lover. There will always be something you could do without, or improve. Developing a spiritual side with yoga is about holding your pose regardless of the circumstances through an awareness of yourself and your experience.

A Quiet Peaceful Mind

“Meditation brings wisdom; lack of meditation leaves ignorance. Know well what leads you forward and what holds you back, and choose the path that leads to wisdom.“ Buddha.

Most of the time, we are busy analyzing our actions and focusing on our physical performance instead of simply being. How can you develop awareness without taking the time and space to connect deeper within yourself?

Yoga gives you the space to do just that. Many teachers will talk about the importance of the quiet mind – push yourself through the highly physical postures in order to be exhausted enough to let go into your quiet mind or sacred inner space. Just be. Don’t expect positivity, peacefulness or happiness, but if it does come, be aware of it.

Be aware of what you experience, and be grateful. Taking this attitude of gratitude and surrender into your everyday life away from the mat makes yoga a spiritual practice.

Yoga Is Not a Religion

You can be of any faith or have no faith to practice yoga – yoga is not a religious practice, and the spiritual side of yoga is not linked to any organized form of worship. The word yoga means to join or unite, and yogis view this unison in different ways – the unison of body, mind, and spirit, uniting all the aspects of yourself, or uniting with a higher power or spiritual force.

You can believe in a God or gods, or nothing at all. Sometimes working through asanas can be like a prayer – moving quietly, reverently, focused on the breath. But equally, your prayer could come the next day, when you feel a jolt of recognition and completion, and are taken back to how you felt when you were truly in the moment, on the mat.

Perhaps yoga is a way of cultivating wholeness, remembering wholeness, and recognizing this wholeness everywhere – for many yogis, that is the spiritual side of the practice.