”When You Finally Decide to Live Your Dreams”

“Our eyes only see and our ears only hear what our brain is looking for.

You’ve been thinking about this for a long time, haven’t you?


You’ve revelled in shallow friendships, numbed yourself in trivial distractions and justified low-living for long enough. You’ve tried convincing yourself—to no avail—that you’re not the person you can’t seem to escape.

Over time, you’ve disconnected with your environment and relationships. You’ve started, little by little, to be more authentic with yourself and the world around you.

What took years to hide only took a moment of honesty to recover. And now, here you find yourself, on what feels like the edge of a cliff.

Looking out.

You’re terrified of what might happen if you allow yourself to go there. Will everything fall apart?

You’re tempted to turn around and go back to the lie you’ve been living. Where it’s easy, convenient and less demanding. You’ve done it so many times before.

So why is this time different?

This time is different because you’ve caught on to the fact that there’s really nothing behind you. It’s all nonsense. At this point, going back would be more painful than the unknown before you—no matter what that might be.

So actually, you can’t go back. How you see yourself has fundamentally changed, and that’s why this time you will succeed.

”You Need to Know When Pursuing An Ambitious Dream.”

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”Be a warrior when it comes to delivering on your ambitions. And a saint when it comes to treating people with respect, modeling generosity, and showing up with outright love.”

Ambition gets a bad rap. The trait that pushes someone toward success can sometimes turn into a game where winning isn’t about achieving; it’s about beating the other person. Channel it correctly, however, and ambition can bring great results.

“On average, ambitious people attain higher levels of education and income, build more prestigious careers, and report higher overall levels of life satisfaction,” “Many of man’s greatest achievements are the products, or accidents, of their ambition.”

The key is to pursue healthy ambition: “People with a high degree of healthy ambition are those with the insight and strength to control the blind forces of ambition, shaping [it] so that it matches their interests and ideals. “They harness it so that it fires them without also burning them or those around them.”

They harness it so that it fires them without also burning them or those around them. Nearly anyone can be ambitious given the right internal and external stimuli, Here are six things you can do to harness your ambition and focus on success over competition:-

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Ambitious people are goal-oriented and are always striving towards the next accomplishment, but healthy ambition involves keeping your goals private.

Psychologists have found that telling someone your goal makes it less likely to happen, “Any time you have a goal, there are some steps that need to be done, some work that needs to be done in order to achieve it. Ideally you would not be satisfied until you’d actually done the work. But when you tell someone your goal and they acknowledge it, psychologists have found that it’s called a ‘social reality.’ The mind is kind of tricked into feeling that it’s already done. And then because you’ve felt that satisfaction, you’re less motivated to do the actual hard work necessary,”

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Ambition takes a willingness to step into fear and anxiety, “Some people are better able to tolerate this fear, perhaps because are more courageous, committed, or driven, and can minimize the fear,” “Ambitious people act with purpose, but allow themselves room to explore, experiment and discover.”

“Don’t be surprised if a breakthrough emerges from a well-managed crisis,” a firm that mentors high-achieving teenagers and adults. “Ambition is the act of being an innovative change-maker.”

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Ambitious people break away from consistent groupthink, and expose themselves to new ways of thinking.

“Talk with and learn from people different from you,” suggests Ma. “Be open to dialogue with acquaintances and even select strangers, as you may uncover interesting opportunities.”

Burton says ambition makes people resourceful: “It forces us to grow, often in unexpected ways,” he says.

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Often people spend the most time working on building their skill set and researching solutions or possibilities. While it’s wise to craft and execute a strategy for any given type of important vision or outcome you want to achieve, ambitious people put the main emphasis on pulling the trigger.

“An executor is one who gets shit done,“If your execution is poor, nothing matters.”


Your biggest competitor should be yourself, “Avoid the trap of comparing yourself with others and measure success only against what you are capable of achieving, “Nothing beats hard work with focus and passion. Stretch yourself.”



Finally, applying the “power of proximity” by networking with clusters of successful people. You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with,“Find role models. Befriend and learn from mentors. Make friends with people smarter than you and more successful in fields you are interested in.”

”Imagination Is The Soil That Brings A Dream To Life”


”Imagination is the soil that brings a dream to life.”

What is your dream? Will you achieve your dream in your lifetime? I’m certain that you desire to. I’m sure you hope you will. But will you actually do it? What odds would you give yourself? One in five? One in a hundred? One in a million? How can you tell whether your chances are good or whether your dream will always remain exactly that—a dream? And are you willing to put it to the test?

Most people I know have a dream. In fact, I’ve asked hundreds, if not thousands, of people about their dream. Some willingly describe it with great detail and enthusiasm. Others are reluctant to talk about it. They seem embarrassed to say it out loud. These people have never tested their dream. They don’t know if others will laugh at them. They’re not sure if they’re aiming too high or too low. They don’t know if their dream is something they can really achieve or if they’re destined to fail.


Most people have no idea how to achieve their dreams. What they possess is a vague notion that there is something they would like to do someday or someone they would like to become. But they don’t know how to get from here to there. If that describes you, then you’ll be glad to know that there really is hope.

When you were a kid in school, do you remember a teacher doing a review before a test and saying something like, “Pay attention now, because this is going to be on the test”? I do. The encouraging teachers who wanted to see their students succeed said things like that all the time. They wanted us to be prepared so we could do well. They put us to the test, but they set us up for success.


My desire is to be like one of those encouraging teachers to you. I want to prepare you to put your dream to the test so you can actually achieve it. How? I believe that if you know the right questions to ask yourself, and if you can answer these questions in an affirmative way, you will have an excellent chance of being able to achieve your dreams. The more questions you can answer positively, the greater the likelihood of success!

Here is my definition of a dream that can be put to the test and will pass: A dream is an inspiring picture of the future that energizes your mind, will and emotions, empowering you to do everything you can to achieve it. A dream worth pursuing is a picture and blueprint of a person’s purpose and potential. , “A dream is the seed of possibility planted in the soul of a human being, which calls him to pursue a unique path to the realization of his purpose.”


What Do You Have in Mind

Dreams are valuable commodities. They propel us forward. They give us energy. They make us enthusiastic. Everyone ought to have a dream. But what if you’re not sure whether you have a dream you want to pursue? Let’s face it. Many people were not encouraged to dream. Others have dreams but lose hope and set them aside.

I want you to know that there’s good news. You can find or recapture your dreams. And they can be big dreams, not that all dreams have to be huge to be worth pursuing. They just need to be bigger than you are.  “Dreams come to a size too big so we can grow into them.”

If you’ve given up hope, lost sight of your dream or never connected with something that you think is worth dreaming and working toward, perhaps it would help you to learn about the five most common reasons why people have trouble identifying their dream:


  • Some people have been discouraged from dreaming by others. Many people have had their dreams knocked right out of them! The world is filled with dream crushers and idea killers.
  • Some people are hindered by past disappointments and hurt. Disappointment is the gap that exists between expectation and reality. All of us have encountered that gap. When something goes wrong, we say, “I’ll never do that again!” What a mistake, especially when it comes to our dreams! Failure is the price we must pay to achieve success.
  • Some people get in the habit of settling for average. Columnist Maureen Dowd says, “The minute you settle for less than you deserve, you get even less than you settled for.” Dreams require a person to stretch, to go beyond average. You can’t reach for a dream and remain safely mediocre at the same time. The two are incompatible.
  • Some people lack the confidence needed to pursue their dreams. Humor columnist Erma Bombeck observed, “It takes a lot of courage to show your dreams to someone else.” It takes confidence to talk about a dream and even more to pursue it. And sometimes confidence separates the people who dream and pursue those dreams from those who don’t.
  • Some people lack the imagination to dream. How do people discover their dreams? By dreaming! That may sound overly simplistic, but that’s where it starts. Imagination is the soil that brings a dream to life.


”Dreams Have No Age Limit”


”There Are Truly No Limits To Achieving Your Dreams, No Matter How Ridiculous They May Seem”

Some people look at me like I’m crazy when I explain what it is I want to do with my life. It’s hard for people to understand my aspirations because society has molded us to believe that we have to choose one thing and then stick with it.

The other day, I was having a debate with my cousin about my career goals and everything I want to do. He kept telling me that I couldn’t do those things because it would be impossible to manage all of them.


I asked him a question — a question he had a lot of difficulties answering. Why not?

I want to be a lawyer, a real estate agent, a musician, a motivational speaker and do some freelance writing work whenever I get the chance. Sounds ridiculous, right? Almost unattainably impossible even. But, why? Why does it sound stupid? Why does it sound unrealistic?

The answer is simple: Some of us don’t dream big enough, some have barriers up. Don’t get me wrong, it’s definitely a lot to handle. And yes, it will add up to a TON being on my plate. But, why can’t I do it?

Our generation thrives off that “Do what you love” motto. Yet, I’m constantly questioned and doubted from the very same people who invented and live by that saying. I blow it off like it’s no big deal because, well, I know my capabilities. I know that there are no limits. I know that the only limits I have are the ones I set for myself.


As cliché as this may come across, you can do what you want and nothing is impossible. If I want to be a real estate agent selling houses while also being a lawyer taking on cases I choose at the same time as recording and releasing new songs and writing articles for whoever is curious enough to read, I can.

I can do it all. If you believe in yourself enough to take on the challenge of doing what you love, then do it.

I’m not letting you know these to boast about all of my accomplishments. I just want to show you that you can do all of the things you really are passionate about doing if you choose to do so. All you have to do is make the first move and realize there are no limits.

Don’t take the path that society has predetermined for you. Take the road less traveled and really get the full experience of what life has to offer. The comfort zone is dull and unattractive to pursue.


Don’t settle for less if you know you can accomplish bigger and greater things in life. After all — to our knowledge — we only get one life to live, right?

We weren’t meant to “follow the crowd.” Each of us is born unique. There is no one person like you in the world, nor will there ever be. Be yourself and do what you love, even if it seems unattainable to others.

Live for yourself and DREAM BIG.

”Dream as if you’ll live forever, Live as if you’ll die today”


”Never let a day pass that you will have cause to say, I will do better tomorrow.”

Imagine the end is nigh.

You’re staring death square in the eye and can hear the final grains of sand slipping through the hourglass of your life, bringing your journey on earth to a close.

What do you think about? Who or what preoccupies your final thoughts?

Perhaps you think about all of the people you wish you’d reached out to; all of the experiences you’d wanted but hadn’t quite gotten around to?


What would your one real regret be?

Would it be the time you wasted on the things that never mattered to the people that did? Maybe the cold shoulder you’d given your wife after a silly argument? The grudge you’d held against the best friend that once let you down?

If we were all lucky enough (yes, lucky) to catch a glimpse of our last moments, perhaps it would become clearer to us how important it is we make the very most of NOW. Our lives have an expiration date; we’ve known that all along. Yet too many of us live as though we have forever; slow, cautious, fearful, hateful…

Ask yourself, with a gift as unpredictable and fragile as life, do you really have the time for negative energy?

Life is short. It’s time you accepted this, not with fear or sadness, but with hope and celebration! If we choose to, our mortality can be our greatest strength. It is what gives us urgency, purpose; it is what drives us to squeeze every drop of love, laughter, and life that we can out of our very existence.


Choose to be happy, not right.

Be generous with your love, never stingy. Mind the ones that matter, never the ones that mind. Be who you know yourself to be, never what somebody makes you. Most importantly of all, laugh.


Every day you are living is a miracle.

But wouldn’t it be an even bigger miracle to have the gift of foresight, to experience those last thoughts, those last moments, for a chance to make the changes now that you’ll regret not doing later?

You’ve no doubt heard of bucket lists, perhaps you already have one? But think about this…

Rather than focusing on what you want to achieve, why not focus on how you want to feel? The person you want to be?

A loving father, a kindred spirit to your husband, a best friend, a teacher…?


I challenge you all to imagine if you were to have a close-call with death.

What would you change? What would you get done today that you haven’t already because you thought you’d be here forever? What would you change about your relationships, the way you give and receive love in the world?

Don’t die with a fistful of regrets; but soaring, with eyes, arms and heart wide open!

”Dream It, Wish It, Do It”

“Do what you have to do until you can do what you want to do.” ~Oprah Winfrey

I needed a bit of extra cash few month back, so I took on a temporary events role working at a local music academy.

I’ve worked in events before, so I didn’t think much about it.

I just knew that I needed some money, I liked doing events, and a short contract had presented itself.

It seemed perfect!

So off I went to my first shift, feeling pretty good about myself and about life.

The first event was in a studio. Even at 5:30pm, when it was still light, I felt uncomfortable walking the ten minutes from the bus stop.

When I got there, I quickly realized that the role wasn’t going to be as fun as I thought it would be: standing to shiver outside in the cold, wearing an exhibition t-shirt, registering attendees, most of whom weren’t on the guest list but were expecting to be on the list.

So they got shirty.

And the line up grew longer.

So they got even more shirty.

Two hours later, and I was starting to wonder why I’d taken on the role. (And don’t get me wrong—I know there are worse jobs, and that I’d signed up for it myself. I’m not looking for pity.)

I started talking to the other girls who were working there. They were students, and it turns out they were a lot younger than me—nineteen and twenty-four. (I’m TWENTY 28 Now.)

Now, I know that age doesn’t make a difference, and I’m generally pretty comfortable with my age. (Getting older is better than the alternative!) But in that moment, I felt pretty crappy.

So as I stood in the cold, with two girls four to eight years younger than me, working for a near minimum wage job, I started to feel down.

I started feeling sorry for myself.

And at the end of the night, as I waited for the bus in the cold, dark bus depot, feeling pretty low, I texted a friend who I knew would understand.


My text read:

What the hell am I doing?! I’m twenty eight years old, and I just worked a minimum wage job in a dodgy part of town, with a nineteen-year-old, and now I’m waiting for the hour-long bus journey to take me home.

 My other friends are doctors or lawyers, own houses, and drive their (nice) cars to their places of work. 

Ever feel like you’ve missed the boat somewhere?!”

My friend was sympathetic (she’s tempting and traveling around Europe while most of her peers are buying houses, having kids, and generally “doing very well.”)

And then she said something that really stuck with me. Something that brought it all home:

She simply said:

“Think of your long-term vision.”

This is how she explained it to me:

Yes, you’re doing a minimum wage role (temporarily). And yes, you’re working with people much younger than you. And taking the bus to work.

But you’re doing all this for a reason.

You’re doing this so you can set up your business. You’re doing this so you can create a new life for yourself—a life to really be proud of.

You’re doing this for the end goal.

So yes, it is sucky right now. But think of your long-term vision.”

I couldn’t have asked for a better reminder.

Because that was exactly it: I was working the job to earn extra money while I set up a business I’m passionate about.

was temporarily in a murky patch so I could get to a better place in the future.

And I had forgotten my long-term vision.I had gotten caught up in the short-term

And this is so easy to do.

So I’d like to share my experience with you, to remind you of this powerful idea: Keep your long-term perspective in mind.

Don’t get caught up in what is happening now, only.

Think of the bigger picture: your big plans, your long-term goals.

If you’re setting up your business and feel like you’re not getting anywhere, think of the long-term vision.

You might not get anywhere in the first few months, but what about the next year or two? How far could you get if you kept going and putting in the effort?

If you’re working two jobs in order to go traveling after grad school, keep that vision in mind.

Think of setting off on that plane with your passport in hand, sipping an espresso in a village in Italy, or seeing the Eiffel Tower for the first time.

Keep your long-term vision in mind.

If you’re writing a book and you’ve rewritten the first chapter ten times, think of your long-term vision: being an author.

Picture having your first book published and seeing it on sale in your local bookstore.

If you’re training for a half marathon and you busted your knee running, rest up, and think of your long-term goal: crossing that finish line.

Don’t worry about the things happening now. The crappy jobs you take… the revisions you’re making… the demo tapes you’re sending off with no replies… the manuscript rejections. These are all temporary.

But the long-term, if you keep taking action and putting one foot in front of the other, could be very different.

If you let it.

If you keep going.

If you keep your goal in mind and keep it clear.

See, I had forgotten my reason for taking on this temporary events role.

It wasn’t to work in the cold while annoyed guests took their impatience out on me.

(Funnily enough!)

It was to earn money so I can keep working on my business.

To keep afloat while I follow my dream—my passion.

Something that makes me feel excited and proud and hopeful and exhilarated.

But, hang on, I know what you’re thinking:

Sounds easy, but how do you do it in practice?

How do you focus on the long-term, while you’re dealing with the difficulties of the short-term?

So here’s how I did it. I hope these points are helpful for you too:

1. Get clear on your goal, and display it somewhere prominent.

Post it on your wall. Set it as your phone backdrop. Make it your computer wallpaper.

Anything. Just make it visible. So you have a reminder, day in, day out, of what you’re working toward.

2. Know how your short-term plans are feeding into your long-term goal.

Get clear on how your actions are contributing to it.

E.g.: I am putting up posters in the rain at eight o’clock at night so that people know about my business and I can eventually help people with my successful and inspiring series of retreats.

I am taking the bus to this business event two hours from my hometown so I can meet people who might be able to help me get a job in my desired industry, or give me tips on how I can make it in this competitive market.

3. Team up with someone doing something similar.

Texting my friend was the best thing I could have done because she understood. She sympathized. I didn’t feel judged, or stupid.

So find someone in a similar situation to you. It doesn’t have to be in person—go online and seek out supportive websites, Facebook groups, whatever it is that helps you realize you’re not alone.

4. Know that everyone goes through this.

The people you see at the top of their game didn’t start there. They sweated, and toiled, and kept going when the end seemed unrealistic, or even impossible at times.

No one promised them they would get to the top. So they used their belief to keep them going.

Think of anyone you admire, in any field…

Did they work hard to get there, or did they have it handed to them magically on a plate? Did they take time to get to where they are now, or did it happen overnight?

5. Appreciate where you are now.

See the positives as well as the negatives. Your blog only has four readers? Great—think of all the mistakes you can make without anyone knowing or making harsh comments!

Working a boring job while you pay your way through school? Then sign up with a friend, and make it fun!

Because—without sounding negative—you will still have issues and problems when you get to where you want to be. They’ll just be different problems and issues. So enjoy the problems you have now.

I might have moaned about my long bus journey home at night, but if I’m traveling for business in the future, there could still be times where my flight is delayed and I’m hailing a cab in the pouring rain at one in the morning.

Appreciate where you are on your journey—it is all important.

So there we go. Five ways to keep going when your short-term reality doesn’t match your long-term vision.

Because we all have to do things we don’t necessarily want to do to get to where we truly want to be.

The trick is that most people don’t want to put themselves through this.

They don’t want to go through the tough times, the yucky stuff, to emerge out the other side, stronger and clearer on where they’re headed.

It’s easier to stay in the easy, safe zone.

So use this to your advantage: Do the things you gotta do, to get to where you want to be.

Because we only have this one life. So why not live it pursuing the things you love—your big goals and dreams?

Why not go after those dreams and adventures rather than moaning that nothing good ever comes your way? (Hint: it’s because you have to go out and get it.)

And now, over to you:

What are you working on now to fulfill your long-term vision?

What are you going through now, in order to create a brighter future for yourself?

What have you learned along the way?

Let me know in the comments. I’d love to hear

”Sky Is Not The Limit” Your Mind Is!!”

”No matter where you’re from, your dreams are valid.”

A dream is defined as a condition or achievement that is longed for, it’s an aspiration that motivates one to work hard. It’s natural that people always love to define others by their failure. Dreams, therefore, come in as a reason to fight for life and success.

Behind any successful person lies a dream, for real dreams shape the future. Money, wealth, class, family background are all nothing without having a vision.

Good destiny isn’t by luck, it’s only for those who dream higher and improvise ways of accomplishing their dreams. Many big names can testify for dreams.

”So many of our dreams at first seem impossible, then they seem improbable, and then, when we summon the will, they soon become inevitable.”


In the history of the USA, Martin Luther King Jr had a dream; he desired a future where blacks and whites would co-exist in harmony.

During his time, African Americans were segregated, killed and treated as slaves but this didn’t stop Martin Luther from dreaming!

Nearly half a century later, Martin Luther’s dream has come to pass with Barrack Obama being the first ever African American to become president of The United States of America.


”Reality is wrong. Dreams are for real.”

Yes, dreams may take longer to be realized but the thought of achieving them someday gives the dreamer the courage to hang in and patiently wait for them to become real.

“Don’t let anyone define you and tell you what you can’t do. No one had a clue that my life would be anything other than working in a cotton factory or cotton field in Mississippi. My success is credited to the dream I had for my future,â€� Oprah Winfrey once responded in an interview.

Oprah Winfrey becoming a celebrated billionaire, news and a fashion icon was no surprise to her. In fact, she had always dreamt of it. However much she went through hell while growing up, her dream never died.

The best thing about dreams is the fact that whichever hardships one goes through, a dream will always urge them to pick themselves up and continue.

To dreamers, there is nothing like a failure in their vocabulary, not until they achieve their goals.


”Always remember, you have within you the strength, the patience, and the passion to reach for the stars to change the world.”

“With no dreams, there would be no reason for waking up every morning,

Many testify having started from zero but have thrived to the top just because of the great dreams they had.

“Without a dream, people will take whatever comes their way for they are not sure of what they want,.
Focusing on positive dreams and having mentors is a tool to achieve our dreams. No dreamer has ever gone astray.


”The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.”

Believe in yourself, dream higher. If others can, you too can. Our country has a great dream and yesterday’s celebrations were testimony that this dream is progressively being achieved. The sky is not the limit. Your mind is…